To Pay or Not to Pay?

As I prepared to embark upon this dating journey I ran into the question, "to pay or not to pay". That is the question because there are so many dating sites, some are free whereas others have a paid subscription.  I've had the chance to try out several online sites and honestly, I have an issue with paying.

Storytime:

Years ago, when I lived in NYC and really didn't have a problem getting a date but the issue was the quality of these dates.  I was seeking a boyfriend to spend time with so I could throw my black book away.  

I joined eHarmony and paid for a 3 month subscription. I completed that long ass questionnaire and took some cute pictures that showed off all my wonderful assets and wrote an engaging profile summary about myself.  I looked through the database of matches and winked at them to show my interest.  

I was excited and logged in daily, waiting for a response and then it happened 2 months later. I received a slew of emails stating interest or disinterest but one guy wrote on actual email (mind you at this point I was ready to cancel my subscription because I wasn't getting any hits at all).  I jumped on it and chatted back and forth with the guy. One thing he was missing was a photo so every few questions I would ask for a picture and he had all type of reasons for why he had a dating site profile without a photos.  Finally, curiousity got the best of me and I sent him my phone number.  

Later that night, I heard a ding and saw a picture of Sloth from the Goonies.  BRUH!!

 

Like seriously, I'm a bit shallow (I was awful back then though but I knew it) but I was too embarrassed to say anything about the picture. He kept asking me if I received the picture and I lied and said no. Karma kicks my ass daily for this. LOL 

I ended up canceling my subscription especially when I saw the commercial about Free weekend. This was the reason I got so much email at one time.  I felt that it was a bit misleading kinda like speed dating.  The pool of women is deep but there are only a handful of men jumping in.  

Story over. 

Now, because of this experiment I signed up for Match.com and within a few hours I had a couple emails and likes but I have to pay to read them.  I must have missed the fine print on that. I simmered over it for a bit and decided Free is for me.  I know that's the road of less resistance but all I could think about is me paying and it's Sloth and the Gremlins after midnight. 

I went with OkCupid because I had never really given the guys a chance there and there is a study saying Black women gets no love there.  I left all the doors open to increase my odds.  

Stay tuned to hear about my first weekend on the dating site.