Character Observation

I'm reading a book called "Cry baby" by Fay Cunningham and there is a development between the main character, Gina and a male character Adam.

There is an obvious passion between the 2, which Gina is fighting hard. She enjoys the sex with Adam but then feeling guilty for "giving in" to him. Why is it "giving in" if you gain pleasure from it? I am finding myself wanting to shake her at times because she requires so much from him yet refuses to give him a break. The guy went to cover a story in Iraq and she gave him grief about not contacting her, after hearing his reason, she felt he could have at least texted her. WTF?! It's clear that she has had some awful relationships in the past and is making Adam pay for all of them. Does she sound familiar?

There is a point in the story when they have sex and she starts to think that he is using her for sex and could have at least texted her a "thank you" and when she does check her phone, he had. She immediately finds another fault instead of being happy with the guy.

I'm not sure if it was the writer's intent to make the character so annoying towards her intimate relationship with this guy but it is working. As I've been studying relationship's paradigms, I certainly see how her behavior is sabotaging and setting her up for the let down she is expecting.

Why not let the past be the past and help each man create a pleasing story moment for moment? If you are busy with your career and know the man is busy with his as well yet when he is with you, you are his focus, what's the problem? Expectations breed disappointment time and time again.

Be happy in the moment!