Character Observation

I'm reading a book called "Cry baby" by Fay Cunningham and there is a development between the main character, Gina and a male character Adam.

There is an obvious passion between the 2, which Gina is fighting hard. She enjoys the sex with Adam but then feeling guilty for "giving in" to him. Why is it "giving in" if you gain pleasure from it? I am finding myself wanting to shake her at times because she requires so much from him yet refuses to give him a break. The guy went to cover a story in Iraq and she gave him grief about not contacting her, after hearing his reason, she felt he could have at least texted her. WTF?! It's clear that she has had some awful relationships in the past and is making Adam pay for all of them. Does she sound familiar?

There is a point in the story when they have sex and she starts to think that he is using her for sex and could have at least texted her a "thank you" and when she does check her phone, he had. She immediately finds another fault instead of being happy with the guy.

I'm not sure if it was the writer's intent to make the character so annoying towards her intimate relationship with this guy but it is working. As I've been studying relationship's paradigms, I certainly see how her behavior is sabotaging and setting her up for the let down she is expecting.

Why not let the past be the past and help each man create a pleasing story moment for moment? If you are busy with your career and know the man is busy with his as well yet when he is with you, you are his focus, what's the problem? Expectations breed disappointment time and time again.

Be happy in the moment!

Thai Basil

Flowering thai basil which means its going to seed. I hope to save the seeds so I can plant them later. I'm going to clip the leaves off and do something special with them.

Crooked neck Squash

My squash plant has loads of females just waiting to mate with males. We can eat the male flower and most tempura it. The leaves are super soft and the stems are delicate.

First fruit!

The first fruit from my recently attacked plant.

Newest Garden Woe

I swear tomato plants are so special! So for a few weeks I've noticed a "dust" on the leaves. I know sometimes they tell you not to wet plant leaves so I was a bit hesitant. I also started noticing the leaves turning yellow and slumping. I began asking around and looking for interventions to save my plant.

I was talking to a colleague who had been telling me to watch out for hornworms, which I haven't seen yet. But she was telling me that if the leaves are moist yet drooping then I'm over watering and of course if they are crispy then not getting enough water. So, I noticed a bit of both on the plant which I I thought meant I wasn't being consistent with my watering (If I don't water daily then its every other day).

This weekend the leaves were looking pretty bad so I thought well maybe they need a bigger space to grow. I went out and purchased 2-5 gallon buckets and some tomato fertilizer and transplanted them into the buckets. I trimmed the branches and gave them a good watering and felt like I had fixed the problem.

I also decided to use a water bottle to slowly water one of my plants that is always slumping and just regularly water the other one. Today, I went out on the balcony and I hadn't watered the one plant yet because the soil was still wet BUT ALL the leaves were drooping and yellow. I moved in for a closer look and noticed them tiny red critters running across the leaves. I was mortified!!!!!

I've since researched it and found out that my poor tomato plant is being attacked my spider mites. The dust on the leaves was a sign because it was actually webs. So, I may have cause this with inconsistent watering and/or given the plant too much nitrogen (I was adding plant food weekly).

I'm gonna try to savage my plant and have since watered the leaves and sprayed it with some stuff I bought when the cabbage loopers were noticed. I've also quarantined it because I have all my tomato plants near each other.